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Soul ties are formed when two or more persons become bonded together. Soul ties can be good or evil, either holy or profane. God has sanctioned soul ties through the bonding of children with parents, husbands with wives, friends with friends, and Christians with Christians. Soul ties approved by God represent the bonding of persons together with bonds of agape love. Soul ties were meant to bring the bridge of agape love. What God intended for good, evil counterfeits. Evil soul ties are the bridge that brings evil into your life.

There are different levels of soul ties. The more powerful soul ties like sexual, marriage, and family soul ties actually make each party vulnerable to the curses and blessings of the other parties. For instance, if a 16-year old boy has sex with a prostitute, then that boy has become vulnerable to all of the curses of not only that prostitute, but also of all the other men with whom that prostitute had sex. The prostitute, and therefore the boy, is soul-tied to thousands or millions of other people and is vulnerable to their curses as well. There are also soul ties that are less powerful, such as friendship ties, that we will discuss in this chapter.

Good soul ties are meant to be established, first through the relationship between parents and children. As the healthy child matures, he can then establish healthy soul ties with a limited number of close friends. Later, he becomes ready to establish his closest soul tie, through marriage. After this, the married couple can establish mutual soul ties with other Christians.

Ephesians 5:31 says, "For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh." A husband and wife are bonded together by love.

Matthew 19:6 says, "So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."

The ideal marriage is one in which God has joined a husband and wife. If God has joined a husband and wife, which is not always the case, and divorce has separated them, then much pain, trauma, and sorrow is experienced resulting in inner wounds. Even in the case of divorce where God has not joined the couple, soul ties are formed which must be broken. In either case, wounds of rejection and low self-esteem are likely.

When the soul tie isn't established between the parents and the child, the child is likely to spend the rest of his or her life trying to reconnect the missing tie. Through continual searching, the child becomes vulnerable to substitute soul ties, most of which are evil.

,Joseph's family came to Egypt looking for food there due to a famine in their land. This was while Joseph was a leader in Egypt. He greeted his brothers while hiding his identity. His plan was to trick the brothers by putting a valuable silver cup in Benjamin's pack and have him caught as a thief, thus bringing Benjamin back to Egypt and inducing his father Jacob to come as well. When this happened, Judah begged Joseph, who was still disguised, to allow Benjamin to return. Judah made his case stating that his father Jacob had a soul tie with Benjamin, and breaking that would cause Jacob to die.

Genesis 44:30-31 says, "Now therefore, when I come to your servant my father, and the lad is not with us, since his life is bound up in the lad's life [his soul knit with the lad's soul], it will happen, when he sees that the lad is not with us, that he will die. So your servants will bring down the gray hair of your servant our father with sorrow to the grave."

When a child is born, the infant should be bonded to its parents. A healthy soul tie should be formed which ministers love and security to that child throughout life. This soul tie serves to stabilize the child's personality. However, there are cases where one of the parents does not release the soul tie as the adult child enters into marriage and requires release. I have seen older men totally controlled by a toxic mother, resulting in a marriage that never matures into a godly union.

Friendship soul ties can be a blessing if between two godly people. Even then they are the weakest of the types of soul ties. They are not always spiritual in nature and do not always act as a conduit of curses.

1 Samuel 18:1 says, "Now when he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul."

This is another type of soul tie that is pure and is based upon love. Proverbs 18:24 says, "A man who has friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother." This is a special kind of loyalty that exists between devoted friends.

Ephesians 4:16 says, "…from whom the whole body, joined and knit together by what every joint supplies, according to the effective working by which every part does its share, causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love."

The relationship between Christians is compared to the relationship between the various parts of the human body. These soul ties enable the body of Christ to mature and fulfill its calling.

Christian and friendship soul ties do not have the level of potential for negative affects that some of the others have. However, Scripture does warn us to not have close relationships with people who have ungodly lifestyles, as they can affect us in a very negative way.

1 Corinthians 15:33 says "Do not be deceived; bad company corrupts good morals. Proverbs 22:24-25 says, "Do not associate with a man given to anger; or go with a hot-tempered man, lest you learn his ways, and find a snare for yourself (for your soul)."

Soul ties with evil companions will so ensnare a person that he/she will become entangled in the grasp of wickedness. Our friends influence us; therefore it is important to choose the right ones.

1 Corinthians 6:16 says, "Or do you not know that the one who joins himself to a harlot is one body with her? For He says, the two will become one flesh."

Demonic soul ties formed imitate the soul ties of the good and holy ties that are founded upon love. Good soul ties are founded upon love. Demonic soul ties are founded upon lust.

For example, sexual relationships outside of marriage forge demonic soul ties. Through adultery or fornication, an evil soul tie is created in lust. This demonic soul tie destroys the holy union that was based upon mutual love and trust.

Romans 1:26-27 says, "For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged their natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire for one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error."

Perverse soul ties are also formed between persons of the same sex. Homosexuals and lesbians are motivated by lust, though they may call themselves lovers.

Also, perverse soul ties extend themselves to those formed between human beings and animals. The ultimate expression of perversion is bestiality, lying carnally with animals. Some soul ties with animals fall short of bestiality. They are characterized by an inordinate affection for animals.

Jesus spoke often about the danger of bonding with your family. In a perfect world, family soul ties are beneficial and a blessing. However if you are trying to walk out your life with Jesus and your family is not, they can have a major negative influence on your spiritual life, even causing you to backslide and reject God completely.

Luke 14:26 (Amplified Bible) says, "If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his [own] father and mother in the sense of indifference to or relative disregard for them in comparison with his attitude toward God] and [likewise] his wife and children and brothers and sisters--[yes] and even his own life also--he cannot be My disciple." The soul tie between a parent and a child is healthy and beneficial, except when it continues into the adult life of the child. When a son or daughter is ready for marriage, the soul tie with the parents must be terminated in order for a soul tie of marriage to be formed.

When the father gives his daughter in marriage, he severs the soul tie with her in preference to her husband. When the soul tie is not severed between the parent and the child at the proper time, that which was good and beneficial becomes evil through control and possessiveness.

Sexual perverseness within family relations occurs when there is incest between father/daughter, mother/son, brother/sister, father-in-law/daughter-in-law, mother-in-law/son-in-law, or other close family ties.

When the essential bonding between parents and child is missed at birth, the child is left with a sense of incompleteness. This can leave him restless and searching throughout his life. Satan can easily draw such a person into false and perverse soul ties with others.

Genesis 50:10 says, "When they came to the threshing floor of Arad, which is beyond the Jordan, they lamented there with a very great and sorrowful lamentation; and he observed seven days mourning for his father."

Deuteronomy 34:8 says "So the sons of Israel wept for Moses in the plains of Moab thirty days; then the days of weeping and mourning for Moses came to an end."

When a family member or close friend dies, the soul tie formed with that person must be dissolved. The period of sorrow following the death of a loved one is primarily due to the adjustment time during which the soul tie is ended. Prolonged mourning indicates the continuation of the soul tie. This invites spirits of sorrow, grief, loneliness and others to enter.

As evil soul ties are identified, their power should be reversed. Our willingness to be honest will determine our the healing we receive.

Matthew 16:19 says, "And I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven, and whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven."

No matter how much sin we have been connected to through these demonic soul ties we have the power through the blood of Jesus Christ to renounce, repent, and loosen this negative energy from our soul to be set free and filled with the Holy Spirit.

1. Be led by the Holy Spirit through prayer that God will help you remember everyone you have had any sexual relations with. Ask the Lord if there were any sexual encounters in early childhood that you may have been too young to remember.

2. This is serious spiritual warfare therefore we do not need to do this alone. We need to find a mature Christian who we trust to lead us through these prayers. This builds a healthy soul tie.

3. Repentance for the sin against God is necessary. God's ordinances have been violated. Lust has taken us beyond the boundaries of purity that the Lord set for us.

Even if the sin was committed in ignorance, it still requires forgiveness. Ask God to forgive you for each perverse soul tie that you have created.

4. Spoil the devil's house by taking back all that he has gained against you. Confess before God that Satan has no further legal right to you. Declare each demonic soul tie that you have identified to be broken in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ.

5. Command the evil spirits associated with the soul ties to leave you in the name of Jesus Christ, the Son of God.

Note. Be as specific as possible when breaking soul ties. Soul ties are formed with each person with whom you have had sexual relationship outside of marriage. Name each person and break the soul tie. Are there any soul ties with animals? Are there any unnatural soul ties with family members? Have spiritually perverse soul ties been created through homosexuality or through occult (idolatrous) involvements, such as fortune telling, hypnotism, ESP, blood covenants, unholy vows, horoscopes, etc? Have you had an abortion or are the father of an abort child the soul tie should be broken between you and that child.

Soul ties are between specific people; therefore, the breaking of soul ties should be with those specific people. It is the same when we are asking forgiveness for judging someone. If names cannot be brought to mind, descriptions to identify the person or the occasion should be used. Also, the more specific we can be the more specific we are able to repent, either for the soul tie, or for the judging.

Soul ties are like two pieces of particleboard glued together. When the pieces are separated, particles of each remain with the other.

I break those soul ties in Jesus' name and renounce them. I ask Jesus for forgiveness for my actions that may have made the ties, and I forgive those who made soul ties to me. I take back every particle of my soul that I may have left with other people, and release every particle of any souls that may be attached to me.

I repent of the sin(s) of ______________________________ in Jesus name. (Write the sin(s) in this blank)

I break the soul tie with ______________________________ I take back my soul particles and I give them back theirs in Jesus name. (The person's name goes in the blank)

I repent of any anger or resentment that I may have toward you God for allowing this to happen. I ask you to forgive me.

I repent of any anger or resentment that I may have toward myself for involvement with this sin. I forgive myself.

I repent of any anger or resentment toward the other party involved in this sin. I forgive them. I command any evil spirits associated with this sin to leave in Jesus name it now under the blood of Jesus. Lord fill me up with your Holy Spirit in these places of my soul. I thank you and I praise you, Jesus gets all the glory, Amen.

Much of the information in this chapter is taking from the book Inner Healing, Session Eight Judgments and Soul Ties, which is used by permission. Copyright * 1992 by Dunklin Memorial Church – Used by permission ISOB.